5 Ways To Stick Up For Yourself Without Feeling Like A Jerk

Having boundaries are very important in any relationship. Let’s take examples; you hate scary movies but you had to sit through two hours and it was completely horrible, or you took on a bulk load of project that you thought was a bad idea or you hate onions but you have to force yourself to chew a lot more than you can handle etc. 

In all honesty we do not like to deal with confrontations whether at work, home or among friends and so we end up doing the things that we have absolutely no interest in.

All this while, you have willingly jumped into the lake but it is time to get out now, it is time to dry yourself up. Here is the 5 ways you can stick up for yourself without feeling like a jerk;

1. It does not matter who you have to respond to, you have to give yourself time to think about your answer and so a simple “Let me think about it” would put the negotiating power in your control.

2. Expressions are necessary but not everyone can decipher facial expressions, not everyone can decipher your thoughts through your expressions and so you have to be straightforward.

3. The universe works in mysterious ways and honestly if you are thinking about it then there are most likely others that are thinking about it too therefore rather than bury all the question and concerns, go ahead and ask even if you think it sounds stupid.

4. Nothing is ever a 100% okay because we all have different opinions and thought process and so if you disagree with something, speak up and explain why using your own reasoning. This helps people to view things from your own angle.

5. Small day to day assertion like, being clear on what you ordered if the waitress brings the wrong order etc goes a long way in building your general assertiveness so make sure you practice.

SOURCE: MADIVAS